We limit their access, have them share the computers, vs their no access at moms. However, the 8 year old has computers at school and actually got in trouble for taking one, she has adhd additionally. My daughter is 13 we co parent great, her dad is a techie btw.

His ex and he struggle, we feel they are too strict. School punished her by no access for 6 months and a bag search before and after school, and mom punished her, no Halloween, and only a matress, pillow, and blanket to sleep on, she had to earn back her stuff with good behavior choices. And yes we have rules.

We sat down with all the kids to set our rules of the house. Suggested they do the same, told her to offer more positive reinforcement for good behaviors, fought like hell against the holiday and room situation to no avail. My son was adhd, odd and, I'm more patient than I used to be. I talk more than yell.

The divorce is still rather fresh, been 2 years, but she ran off with a relative. So it's really not good for the kids in any way. But we aren't in a good place financially right now, trying to get our lives straight ourselves, that's the conundrum.