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Originally Posted by JustShakey
Like I have to pay back every small kindness tenfold or the other person will abandon me. Of course the opposite is true - the other person is made to feel uncomfortable and distances themselves and I end up believing that I didn't do enough and so the spiral continues.
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T and i were talking about this last week re the first mr hankster and his being selfish in bed. But also why was i so "giving"? Read controlling?
An my other thing about the transitional object, when t gave me a coffee mug. An all i could think was, when do i have to give it back? That was pure transference. Where did that feeling come from? The feeling that nothing was mine. I dont think im done with that one yet.