Good work! Makes total sense to me!
My T. doesn't like to give me reassurance either. I KNOW why but I hate every minute of it. I have to remind myself that the boundaries, spacing sessions, etc. is really what she thinks is best for me and out of care for me. But, little me gets really pissed off and convinced she's my mom again. It sucks.

My T. won't validate either because she feels I should be comfortable with my feelings without someone telling me whether they are right or wrong because they are neither. Now, she will say things like "you'll be ok" every once in awhile or explain why I might feel a certain way which can be both. But, it's a usual "no" if I flat out ask. So, I'll have to also remember what your T. said. And, that's true. I would treat my kids the same way yet I want to be treated differently. Hmmmm.