I am not convinced my core beliefs need to be changed. I don't think I am particularly unlovable- not more unlovable than I think most people are and I don't dislike me for the most part. I may be a bit odd in thought or approach but not really that much in action - I get up, brush my teeth, drink coffee, live in a house, sleep in a bed, hold a job, pay my bills and so forth - so although I sometimes feel alien to the approach it seems a lot of others just take for granted as being something people would want (hugging for example) will be the correct approach - I don't want to change more than I want to not be an alien if that makes sense.

How does one decide which core beliefs they want to change and which ones they are okay with or believe are accurate?