Hello ladies. I have been feeling so down with my boyfriend as I feel insecure in our relationship. He's a great guy very respectful always there when you need him. He's known I've been bi since we met but I get a surge of anger and jealousy when he just talks with women.

He always let me know who he talks with and I don't want to be controlling he has a right to talk to whoever. My fears stem from what if he leaves me? I have a fear of abandonment issue resulting from childhood. What if he fancies another woman? He is not cheating on me at all he does enjoy having a social life.

I bottle up my emotions I have spoken to him about this issue a lot. He reassures me all the time it pains me I'm not a secure woman in my own relationship. I had to watch a lousy narc mom be beyond insecure in her useless marriage.

Question is how do you become a secure woman? I see a therapist for sexual abuse issues sigh so tired of therapy and being a basket case when is that gonna end? I don't have a positive model of a secure woman. I know a woman told me to always know your worth.