My old T was not attractive in the "Hollywood" sense, but she had an incredibly contagious smile. Her voice, she could say so much with just the tone of her voice. She exuded warmth and caring.
I don't think she could have been a whisker over 5' tall, skinny, died her hair red, and never wore make up. Loved to laugh, and she "got" me. She was one of the smartest people I have ever met.