Hi sadlonely girl. Hope you are not experiencing distress from the hurricane. Welcome to Psych Central. I am so sorry you are suffering from a sense of low esteem and anxiety.
I am so sorry you are feeling so anxious and distressed. Usually if people have not found a med that gives relief then they will contact their psychiatrist to try others. If one psychiatrist has not helped they will find another that specializes in their diagnosis.
There are life style changes that can give some relief that I have tried. These are not remedies but things that help me cope.
Diet can have an affect on how we feel. I have to watch what I eat because foods I eat can stabilize my moods or exaggerate them. A high protein low carb diet with snacks or meals every 3-4 hours will over time reduce my swings. I also avoid alcohol and recreational drugs because those can really increase depression.
Here is what I use when my head gets over crammed with thoughts. Breathe in a natural way. Silently count one on the inhale and 2 on the exhale. 3 on the inhale and 4 on the exhale. Continue up to 10 then go back to 1. This helps me focus on breathing rather than the wall of thoughts.
Other lifestyle changes that help me are doing yoga, exercises, mindfulness, calm music, and being active on Psych Central.
Some people find the forums give them the compassion and empathy they seek.
http://forums.psychcentral.com
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