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Originally Posted by just2b
Hi
Wondering if anyone has ever thought of seeking revenge on those that hurt you? T tries to calm my rage and anger towards those that hurt us but sometimes as much as I appreciate her work, all of it comes back again, however she does manage to contain it for weeks at a time. We often feel that it will just continue to grow more and more stronger and stronger. I seek revenge in my head on and off and sometimes it comes in clusters at a time. Just starting one now... Revenge the same say they hurt us. Other times worse !
If you seek revenge how would you go about it? Do you feel it's helpful or hurtful ? Of course all fantasy in my head. The only place I feel justice can be served!
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no I never sought out revenge on my abusers. when I was a child they were prosecuted by my parents and social services. thats not saying I didnt go through rage and wanting to harm them. its just a natural instinct for human beings to want to harm those that harm us. I mean if you read historical documentations even back in the cavemen days theres documented evidence on how one tribe\band of people sought out revenge on another who did them wrong. its instinctual survival mode as my treatment providers call it.
when ever I went through this my treatment providers had many ways to help me through it....one thats currently very popular with treatment providers is writing a letter to the abuser. this letter can if the writer chooses be sent to the abuser, or placed in the files, or destroyed in what ever ways will help one to move on. for me this helped a lot to be able to put in writing how I felt about what happened and what I wanted to do to the creeps then put all those feelings in the trash can and light it ablaze.
then writing another letter letting my abusers know that I wasnt going to sink down to their level, that they did their best to ensure I did not survive, but I did and the best revenge against them is my survival. I was not going to let them define and rob the rest of my life and happiness.