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Originally Posted by lolagrace
I think you are right. It is different for everyone. For me, I guess the real work of therapy was taking what I was learning about myself, about communication, about whatever and actually using it and applying it on my own outside of session. If I left all of that isolated to my therapist's office, then I was just spinning my wheels. I needed to do more than just talk about it; until I actively worked to utilize and eventually internalize all of that talk, the real work, for me, didn't really begin. It was outside of session that I did the real work.
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Ditto all of that.
For me the 'work' is also letting difficult emotions come up to the surface in front of someone else and trusting them and myself to understand and validate what I'm going through. It'd hard just to be honest and admit a lot of my own stuff, fears, family history, etc. and it'd be a whole lot easier in the short run to just ignore everything and coast through life.
The last session I had, I took it 'easy' and kind of avoided examination of some heavier sad stuff. My T didn't press me but now I regret it. It doesn't feel good to avoid stuff anymore. I want to do the work.