It's not easy to change our feelings, but that is a lot of what therapy is about, no matter what your disorder is. Teaching empathy is part of therapy for people with antisocial personality disorder, and for people who have hurt others - abuse, etc. or for those who are at risk of becoming abusers (such as youth from dysfunctional families who show some early warning signs). Also, some people may have empathy for others and not for themselves, so they need to learn empathy for themselves. There are other feelings that we work on changing in therapy too. My T told me that it's ok to take up space and to have needs. Intellectually, I know that's right - I would never think that anyone other than myself shouldn't take up space or have needs - but the feeling that I shouldn't goes pretty deep, and I don't know how to change it. It's just how I feel, and have felt for a long time. Other feelings people might work on changing include worthlessness, blaming themselves for things that have happened to them, being anxious or fearful when it doesn't serve a useful purpose, etc. None of those things are easy to change, but, yes, people do manage to change them.

Should you change your feelings? That is a good question too. I can see where it may seem like working to change the way you feel somehow is not being true to yourself. It really hurts to be told that the way you feel is wrong, and in a sense nobody can legitimately tell you that - you feel the way you do. But sometimes our feelings are not working out for us very well, and it would serve us better to change them, as in the case of lacking empathy, feeling worthless, anxiety, etc. And since changing those feelings will be an improvement in your quality of life, working towards that is not being untrue to yourself.

Accepting yourself for who you are is also an example of changing your feelings.

Does any of this help?