Right on, Draggers!! For me the terrifying topic was the Transference relationship with T...everything about it. We are into "the work" of seeing how my early childhood struggles with my bad mother and bad caregivers are embodied in my T. I'm terrified to say the words to my therapist when I really feel them for her. I know what you mean when it's very difficult to even ask for a glass of water. But that's where real healing starts and we're not just intellectualizing about feelings , but actually Doing them with T.