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Thank you so much for your kind words. It really means a lot to me because I've always been wondering whether I've been able to communicate my problems in a sensible way for people to actually understand and help me. I must admit how difficult it is to put aside the fear of being judged even for a moment and open up on something so unusual and embarrassing in an honest and coherent manner, so your words are really encouraging.
Thanks again for sharing your insights on laziness. I pretty much go through the same thing you’re talking about. Every time some important thing has to be done laziness and depression affect me together even if I had been feeling relatively fine. This is probably why I always feel like I want to do so many things and start on them but then end up feeling too overwhelmed to proceed with and complete the task. This has resulted in so many wasted efforts and so much loss in terms of money and credibility. It hurts me when even the people closest to me don’t take me seriously when I want to do something but who can blame them? Also the stigma attached to laziness is so terrible that it seems impossible to talk about it without feeling like the least deserving person on the planet.
It doesn’t help that everyone I’ve consulted with feels that I’m being deliberately lazy because I don’t want to do anything but just enjoy the fruits – that I pretend to take up things only to ‘act’ as if I’m not lazy. What they don’t understand is that no one is forcing me to prove or act like anything.
I really appreciate the article. It is really important and indeed brings a significant change in perspective. I’ve been giving it a lot of thought and I see how my inability to decide on things ultimately leads to doubts, anxiety and imagining the worst. It also has resulted in my inability to identify what I really want to do in my life and thereby prefer to live in grand imaginary worlds. I’ve been previously advised to mentally say ‘STOP’ whenever I start to imagine which did have some effect but didn’t really stop or change anything. However ‘SNAP’ seems to deal with the underlying issue and I will definitely try it. I’m happy to know that it has worked for you and you’re feeling empowered. Even though at this point the whole imagination and other related problems I’ve mentioned are preoccupying me so much that depression has almost become an unconscious ordeal, I will consciously start with the smallest decisions. Thanks again for sharing this and I will let you know how it goes for me.
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No bother at all, great that I can be of support.
Yes indeed - I am majorly struggling financially, and laziness can paralyse me when trying to move forward. There will be light at the end of the tunnel though.
The great thing I find about the article is that it involves making the smallest step and it can be for the most random things. Today I poked my tongue out, squnited my eyes, turned my head - small decisions with no risk, that take little effort, but it really gets the ball rolling!
As for snapping - for me its the physical element that truly helps. Cognitively working my way out of depression is a real struggle and combatting my thoughts with positive thoughts is so so tough. I find it far better to 'fan into flame' positivity by physically reacting. And it doesnt just have to be snapping the fingers - as not to appear weird on the bus I do other sublte gestures like tap my side.
On the other end of the scale, i suppose your 'STOP' works well - even firmly saying it. A strong physical gesture like a fist pump along with it would work well I'm guessing.