Goals & priorities r important. My T & I set workable goals. For example...we r DID, not being DID is not a workable, measureable goal, achievable goal. Neither is something as vague as doing better. Not measureable. But learning a behavior to deal with dissociation is. We learn what behavior works, how to implement the behavior, practice using it to reduce dissociation. Add it to our tool box & take up another tool. We realized using our tools we can have a great deal of control over when we chose to dissociate. Priorities can change quickly & r sometimes set more by our T. It depends on what life is throwing at us. Sometimes we have to ignore what we planned & deal with a situation or a trigger. Sometimes we don't see the steps involved & our T knows we need to work thru other things first. Usually for us things we'd rather avoid all together !! Darn it! We know this therapy thing is worth the time, money & heartache cuz we can see how much we have improved. With dissociation eg we can actually make a conscious decision to stay or leave. Didn't know that was possible. Wouldn't have believed it possible. & if a trigger overwhelms us we don't panic & make it even worse. We can work with it. We r DID, dissociating is in the DNA so to speak. But workable goals let us know that things r getting better even if it doesn't feel like it.