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Originally Posted by justdesserts
My marriage is not healthy and the longer I'm in therapy, the more things I discover that I would like to be different about myself and my life. As I've changed, my partner has not and in many cases has dug his heels in and refused to look at our marriage at all. It's complicated things quite a bit. Because of the changes I've made, my husband really doesn't like my therapist and sometimes calls him names and makes snide comments about petty things. At the same time, I think my therapist thinks that I'm in an unhealthy marriage and would like to see things change for me at home, although he would never say so directly.
Have any of you ever been in a situation where your partner or your family didn't like your therapist? Or didn't approve of the changes you were making in therapy? What did you do? What about if your therapist thought your family was unhealthy, but you couldn't leave? How did you deal with that? Thanks in advance for any insight you can provide.
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Issues with my husband are ultimately what brought me into therapy to begin with. I did not tell him right away, so when I did (a couple of months later), he was royally P I S S E D. That I lied to him, kept something from him.... well, I didn't think I'd stick it out, so didn't want to tell him just in case I ended up quitting after a few sessions. He was furious with me, but he got over it. A few months in, he actually joined me for one session, and he actually talked.
Honestly, I think my H is threatened by my T. He never says anything, and he knows I still go twice a week, but I think he's feeling threatened at just the thought that I'm going to therapy. Like if he does something, I actually have someone to go tattle to about it or something. We get along just fine...as roommates. We sleep on separate floors. I never intend to sleep with him again (it's been over two years). Right now I'm just coasting. I don't see being married to him forever. But that's how my H seems to feel about therapy.... I really think he feels a bit intimidated by it.