About 3 months ago, I met Tasha, a 37 year old woman, through a popular online dating site. She contacted me. Her profile had no pictures. There's a 13 year age difference between us. Initially we just started out messaging only. I'm an ex-bodybuilder and Tasha was primarily interested in fitness advice because she admired how well I stayed in shape. Tasha sent me a picture with most of her body hidden but I could tell she was plus sized. I told Tasha that I felt her body was fine just the way it was, explained I was no expert but agreed to set up a fitness program for her.

This was on a dating website so of course I started flirting. She seemed somewhat interested but I wasn't sure. We moved from messaging to talking by phone. I was hooked the first time I heard her voice. I knew that I had to meet her. Tasha would talk about possibly meeting but something would always happen. Once we finally agreed on a specific date, she cancelled about an hour before we were to meet.

I started getting frustrated and figured she wasn't interested. I told her I would only act as her trainer. Tasha said she was interested in me and promised we would finally met. The first date was disaster. I came on too strong and scared her. I apologized and again offered to act only as her trainer. Tasha had an upgraded membership to the dating site and could tell when I was active on it. Later, she called me upset because she found out I had been online on the same day of our date. I explained it was after the date ended but was admittedly flattered that it mattered to her. From that time on our relationship was in hyper drive.

Now I feel trapped. She texts me hourly. Tasha needs to know where I am every day. If I don't answer a text message she gets upset. Even if I'm at work or hanging out with friends. She sends songs to me and love messages. I try to answer with the same but I'm running out of ideas. She's in the closet so I'm not allowed to touch her in public. Even a casual hug makes her anxious. I'm bisexual so I'm constantly accused of trying to cheat with both women and men. We live about 50 miles apart so every weekend she wants us to be together.

Early in the relationship, I told her I loved her and I do. I also asked her to move in with me but that was way before the possessive behavior started. When its one on one we get along fine. She's super affectionate and sexually we're compatible. We pretty much stay indoors for the entire weekend. At my place, I bring her breakfast. Drive her from the parking lot to my apartment so she doesn't have to walk or carry anything. At her house, I'm on my own. As soon as were apart we're good for two days then we argue until we meet again. Usually it's because she says I'm ignoring her. I've delayed the move because we fight so much. I've also started to be more demanding and saying no more often instead of just waiting on her.

When angry Tasha will find the most hurtful thing she can think of to get back at me and breaks up with me by text message. Recently I was taken to emergency for dehydration. Tasha first accused me of lying and then told me to make sure I get tested for STDs. She was angry that while I was in ER half conscious with cramps, nausea and diarrhea that I took too long to call her. She said if I wasn't so vague about how sick I was she would have been more sympathetic. I stopped talking to her but she begged me to stop ignoring her calls. Eventually I did agree to talk and now I'm back in the relationship. Is there hope for us?