My H, I think, could care less that I don't share my feelings with him. He's never really been receptive to that anyway. My T read him a lot in that one session. Firstly, she does believe he loves me in his own way. Yeah, she is probably right. As much as he knows how to love I guess. But she also said he had an "Asperger's syndrome-like feel" to him.

My T is also a divorce coach, but she does not encourage me one way or the other on what to do. She already knows what I feel in my heart, that someday I probably won't be married to him anymore, but she doesn't push that at all, and knows that if I do something, it will be when I'm good and ready, which could take years. I don't think it's their job to encourage people one way or the other in something like this, and my T does exactly what I think should be done by all... just supports me in however I feel. The reason I don't think they should encourage people is that they often only have one side of the story. My T does couples counseling, but she will not take us both on, as I've already got a relationship with her and there could be a chance she may have a bias. I think that's great, and responsible for her to think that way. She said if we ever did attempt MC together, she would give us referrals, but she thought it was important that I keep seeing her individually. I guess I may change my opinion on what T's should do/say if the husband was abusive in some way.