one thing i want to let you know is that you must be very brave in order to get out of an abusive relationship. i had to do it myself, i have one son 24 years old now. i never would have gotten away if it wasn't for my drive to get out to raise this child in a better place.so what? just because you have kids shouldn't make a difference if you are going to have a normal and loving relationship, i'm sorry you've come across so many jerks. good luck and lots of love your way!!!