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Originally Posted by Red75
I'm posting this because I really agree with Growly above, and my experience is that it must be very hard to make new friends after a certain age, and often that's simply because people have work, family, household, existing friends, and no time! Not because there's anything 'wrong' with the new person.
Hope that makes sense. Sorry for the waffle.
Btw I made friends for life when I went back to studying!
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I really hope you're right. I'm probably taking rejections personally because I have a life history of being bullied at school and at work, so I constantly wonder (but do not seek reassurance about) if I'm unappealing or just not "good enough" to be anyone's friend.
I think my social anxiety gets in the way a lot as some people who've texted me in meetup group chats have told me that I am a lot warmer and friendlier in text than in person.
I've been working on my lifelong social anxiety for more than a year, perhaps I need more time... After all, this is the first time in my life where I'm actively forcing myself to socialise instead of being a loner and recluse.
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Originally Posted by iheartjacques
Do you have a dog? I meet lovely people at the dog park. Have you joined your local rotary or lions club? They love new members and making new friends while helping the community.
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I don't have pets and don't drive so the local animal shelter is quite far (more than an hour and a half via bus)...but perhaps I can find something closer to home, thanks.
