I understand where you're coming from, but I think more of what she says, is that since I am married that he is a good support. She has met with him at my request to explain some things that I wanted him to know but couldn't say. So she knows his feelings for me and where he stands on his side of things in concern for me. I often talk about love in marriage and since I'm at a lack of understanding for that term right now we leave it be as that isn't at the top of our 'to discuss and figure out list' at the moment. She's just grateful he's supportive because he could not be and could make all of this a lot harder than it currently is.