We talk about the work a lot. He has to bring me up to speed a lot, in that i dont realize or recognize what is going on behind the scenes so to speak. For example, after a few years, i made a comment about how reliable the bus was and how surprising that was to me. He gave me a look like, what am i chopped liver? So we talked about how my parents unreliability towards me colored my view of the world, and how ts reliability changed that view for me. So the work can be very subtle. Stopdog you are not wrong in thinking things may be being done to you. But i think trying to control or even count the ramifications would be impossible. Its like contracting for electrical service in your house - who knows how you will use that electricity? l