I am a 27 year old guy, and I just have this obsession with making sure I look good enough to attract girls. Lately I have noticed there is a mole on my face. It used to be so small that it wasn't noticable, but now it seems to have grown and I can't seem to take my mind off it. I kind of want to get it removed but at the same time I'm afraid that people will say I am vain. I usually don't give people the impression that I care that much about my looks and I don't really like having the image of a vain person.

The real issue though I think is more about girls. I often find myself attracted to girls and I feel like if they find me unattractive there is a sense of shame about being attracted to them, like they will think "who does this guy think he is thinking I'd be into him, doesn't he realize he is ugly?" I also seem to have developed this issue with watching girls I like swoon over better looking guys than me. This is probably because of past experiences where I went through a lot of emotional turmoil because of this kind of thing.

Is this normal for someone my age?