I know that advice isn't the best, and seems weird, but trippin i definitely understand where you mother was coming from. Part of me wants her to back off a bit and not be so loving, and make me work for it. But how in the world do I convey that to someone, especially after 6 years of being together? For example, I'm most turned on etc. when we go out and other guys stare at/hit on her. Is that just weird? And this is also weird, btu the though of her being with someone else doesn't really bother me that much (just sexually).

Basically, I think I take her for granted big time. I've been tyring to fight the feelings of complacency by subtelly pushing her away, giving subtle hints at upping the mystery, but I don't really know if that's even the right thing to do in the first place. I think I need some direction advice on how to handle it. I know honesty is always the best policy but this would be the convo: "baby I love you but sometimes I'm not attracted to you and think alot about other women. Please don't say I love you as much and push me away so I have to work for you and don't take you for granted." I don't see that going over so well. HELP