well, she called again at 3 am.. we spoke, she misses my daughter, feels bad etc. She's up all night drinking at her new place.. She has invited me over etc. So, I'm thinking there isnt really a significant other person at this point.. She did say she dated a guy for a month (we broke up 6 weeks ago) and he was too clingy.. I don't know about that as she is a cling on big time.. didnt press the issue. She admits shes drinking way too much and is a sex addict as well.
Today she asked me to meet her so I did.. first time seeing her.. She looked unhealthy. I expected to pick her up and have a visit at the beach or something.. I met her at her moms where her broken car is.. She was in a fit over needing $20 for parts to fix her car.. she's broke.. She got pissed when I refused to give her money, threatened me with not talking to me etc. I took it in stride. Told her money was a boundary. she was freaking out the entire time.. We ended up going for a ride where she bought herself and her brother coffees (about $5) and then a pack of cigarettes ($10)... when i confronted her with the idea of using the $15 towards the $20 for parts so she can drive herself to work, she said it doesnt ****ing matter because she didn't have $20, only $15.. I said good bye, gave her a hug and left. She has texted me since quite a bit. She wanted me to come to her house tonight to talk. I said we can talk but not at her house, again explaining a boundary for me.. She understood. We will see how tonight goes, I'm guessing it's going to turn into her needing me to sleep over or something so she has a ride to work tomorrow. No question she will be asking for something.. She is insanely selfish at this point.. If she can't get something from someone by manipulation, she will not talk to that person.. she has no use for anyone who can't supply her with something.. For some reason she is tolerating me and actually apologized for freaking on me when I refused to give her the $20.. She acknowledges she is manic and sick but still skirts the idea of any treatment. Its been less than a month out on her own and her world is crumbling, bank account in red, broken car, drinking her face off, huge mood swings. I explained to her today the possibility of things getting worse for her. I explained that if she waits til the last minute when she is desperate and totally a blubbering mess to ask for help from me, that I will question her motives. I told her it wouldn't be a good idea to call me from the hospital with no where to turn, no home, no money etc and tell me she loves me and wants me back, because It will not fly