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i had told him the letter might sound angry

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Ok, why did you sense that the letter might sound angry? Perhaps anger is too strong a word? Aren't you frustrated though?

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the therapy work is not done on the phone... i call him in crisis and THEN in therapy we look at it.

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i am going to go to bed with a few more clonazepams

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even if i never do say the right things

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Of course you must say the right things plenty of times.

I didn't read your "facades" incorrectly, btw, from what you are experiencing. It is also quite common when we are so "all over the place" as you say. Society demands that we put ourselves together to fit in, when inside we may be falling apart. Actually, it's a good thing and not really a facade. I suggest you think of yourself as put together being the real you, and the crumbling self as the temporary facade of how you currently feel. (((hugs)))

Have you had a chance to read the 10 common cognitive distortions posted at the top of the Psychotherapy Forum? It really does help to catch ourselves in our thinking errors.

Have a good night, and a better tomorrow. TC