Thank you for the support everyone. I feel okayish right now, but I know the next time it happens it will be the same old thing again. I have to work on it.
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Originally Posted by Innerzone
That does suck. 
I think sometimes people react/don't react to things because they're scared. They don't know what to do or are afraid of doing something wrong. Not always, but probably more often than we'd imagine. Still, it's hard being on the other end when someone's in a mode of not being able to handle (or even recognize) how they're feeling, because it can come off very badly!
Do you have a therapist? Have you talked with them about it? There are some strategies to help not internalizing as much, and they could be really helpful. Because it's awful to feel like that. Been there. |
I don't have a therapist right now. I have to start looking for once since I just moved back home.
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Originally Posted by Supanova
How old are you? Can you see what you have written and see why your family doesnt take you seriously? Temper tantrums. They are probably over it.
Hopefully your therapist can help you move on from this stage. I know a heap of BPD girls who were the same who are now through this. Goodluck |
The way somebody feels should ALWAYS be taken seriously whether it's rational or not. They're still real feelings. In the case of Bipolar in particular they can be intensified further that someone who doesn't have it though. Feelings shouldn't ever be written off or be something to be "over" or tired of. Part of being a family member or a friend is to look out for the emotional needs of the other. In my book, walking away when someone is clearly in need isn't meeting that part.
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Originally Posted by Hooligan
Yes, I think that you've got a lot of pent up hurt inside of you that stems from issues that you have possibly not resolved yet, and triggered by when people walk away and you are not finished saying what you want to say, and manifesting itself in you resorting to throwing things out of pure frustration because people are denying you the right to finish saying what you are trying to say in the first place.
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It might help you to start healing, if you can start figuring out, what is it that you want people to know, that leads you into a full blown rage, where you are screaming suicide and breaking things? This can't feel good for you at all, and that's who I'm concerned about most.
Is it because you think they simply don't get your inner pain?
I'm wondering, if you see a therapist, can they work on strategies with you in expressing your feelings and how hurt you are to your family, in a way that will work, for you, and not leave your mental health hanging by a thread, because you family's reaction, over the last 4 years, have lead to you feeling even more hurt, and I really don't want this for you
You deserve happiness.
You don't deserve for your feelings to be dismissed.
Just know that we do hear your pain here on PsychCentral.
Many of us have at some stage, felt at the end of our rope.
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Thank you!
I do need to sort out why I have such a strong reaction. In all honesty, this is how I've been since I was 13 or so. It's not as bad anymore, but it has it's moments for sure. This does seem to be a sort of mentality that has stuck around. I have to get a therapist and work through what the overall issue might be that I'm not seeing and how I can react better when someone walks away from me (the world is imperfect so it's going to happen unfortunately).
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I totally empathize with what you're going through. I'm sorry you have to go through this.
I have felt similarly in the past. I used to pay attention to every time a person I was talking to, would simply stop listening. I was hurt, I felt boring, unimportant than others because I thought they don't listen to me but do listen to each other.
I've learned few things since;
It's okay not to have everyone's attention, maybe it's not in their interest. and that's okay.
It doesn't have to mean anything other than the factual thing: I talk, he does not listen. it DOES NOT mean I'm worthless nor boring. boring is subjective anyways
Sometimes people won't REALLY listen when I don't really feel like talking to them, but rather talk out of social pressure. If I don't feel like it, I rather let it go. so regard it as they are reflecting to me what I actually feel on a subconscious level; not interested 
** If a close friend would act like it; I would try to have a conversation with him in which I will say how it makes me feel when he does that, and ask if maybe it is something I have said. It is wonderful how honesty (in a respectful manner) works
** When somebody acts really impolite in a conversation, I would sometimes note his behavior.
If somebody would just turn his back in middle of conversation and walk, well.. I think there is nothing left to say, he 'said' everything. |
Thank you for your support.
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Oh, wanted to add. I don't know if this will make you feel a little better, but while I was in college I lived at home, and I told my mom I was depressed, and she didn't take me seriously either. Just said I wasn't like that "before". It would have been nice if she had taken me seriously and gotten me into therapy. It would have prevented a lot of the hardships I went through in my twenties I think.
It's too bad when family members don't take us seriously. I REALLY could have benefited from therapy at that time in my life.
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I think it's sort of this thing where parents don't want to admit there could actually be something wrong with their kid. For example, my mom would say "you don't need medicine" or "you don't need therapy." I didn't even get a therapist until serious suicide threats I made to my ex (GF at the time) who then warned my mother who FINALLY took it seriously at that point and got me a therapist. If I can ever say an ounce of a thing about that insane ex, it was that in some round about way she's the reason I was actually able to get help. Then again, she was also a big reason for my actual suicide attempt.
There's that whole "no, my kid is fine" thing a parent wants to keep PLUS the stigma in society. They don't want their kids life to be harder than it already is, but they don't realize that denying the issue only makes it worse. That's also why it would be great if society could be educated about various mental illnesses and everyone could learn to take them seriously.