Thank you hooligan. I see what you mean. I need to find ways to stay safe. At the moment if I inadvertently alert them to the fact something's wrong I won't be safe either. I think like you say coffee with mum might be doable. Not quite yet, but soon. It's Father's Day here in the UK on Sunday. Dreading. Husband will come with me and we'll find a way to manage it. But still very anxious. Thanks for your reply.