Hi psychoho,
Just wanted to give you a quick warm welcome to PsychCentral.
Congrats on your first post here
Good to see you here on this forum. Members here are all great.
I'm sorry to hear the circumstances surrounding your first post. It doesn't sound like you had a compatible girlfriend. For her to ignore you makes no sense. I always say that issues can not be resolved by simply sweeping them under the carpet, they need to be addressed full on, and you were doing everything within your power to at least try and work on some things that were happening.
I think that it was pretty callous of her to just leave you hanging dry after making arrangements to see you and then just not showing up. To me, she was playing unfair mindgames with you, you don't deserve to be treated like that.
She sounds like she has some very real issues going on that she needs to address, hopefully which she will do before entering into some sort of serious relationship with someone, because she's put you through some kind of emotional hell by playing you like a yo yo - reeling you in and then spitting you out is not fair on you.
I guess if I consider your question, it would depend on where your threshold lies and what you are wanting from this girl?
Are you wanting to possibly pursue some sort of relationship in the future? Because if not, if I were you, I'd be thinking of my own mental health first, and I'm not sure I'd allow her to continue to maintain contact with me with the way she has messed you around ... I'd find a way to block her from my phone contact or something ...
On the other hand, if you are wanting to maintain a friendship with her, it sounds to me like boundaries need to be set in place in this relationship, which you will need to very clearly spell out for her, unfortunately, because I don't think that she should have let it reach this point.
Either way, regardless of which of the two you decide, my wish for you is that it is a decision that serves your own mental health well in the long run
Let us know how you go.