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Old Jun 19, 2015, 06:22 AM
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I'm always suspious of parents that children/adults label as 'Wonderful'

Why would a parent be wonderful. If they feed, support, love, clothe, give warmth & shelter to their child thats not being wonderful, thats being a normal loving parent.

My niece is called 'wonderful' by her daughter (who seems like a nice girl) But my niece is actually a narissistic horror, utterly self absorbed she who abandoned her first two chilldren one a new born. Her parenting skills are poor though she can put on a 'good show' for an audiance.
IMO people who call parents amazing/wonderful have often been brainwashed, gaslighted by those parents. Fed a lie. And they believe it cos, parents tell the truth, right?

My father always told me I was 'So lucky'
Funny, I never felt remotely lucky.

Scott Peck who wrote 'The people of the lie' found a declaration of 'My parents are Wonderful' by a patient was usually a big Red Flag.
He would slowly unravel the story, and find parents who were utterly inadaquate.
So, have you got 'Wonderful' parents? Are you sure they are wonderful, or, is it an illusion?
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