Hello Everyone,
Procrastination has always been something I excel at, I think having the combination of BPD and ADHD makes this a given sometimes.

I have come a long way in my therapy. I am not at a point where I can work on some of the other things in my personality that I couldn't really tackle before.

I want to work on complaining less about things I cannot control. I know how to use my DBT skills to accept this things for what they are. In a way it's hard though as my old brain is so used to complaining about them that it is a lot of work to shut the voice up in my head that complains. For example, there is a part of my job that I really don't like. It is something that creates a lot of work for me, and something that we are not measured on and it frustrates me. What has caused me a lot of misery in the past is that I have to over think about these things...I see how stupid it is and it angers me. So, now when I receive an email from a client about it, or a new client who is inquiring about it, etc...I feel the anger bottling up. I used to always say in my head "damn it, I hate this stupid program, why do people have to come in for this, why can't they give us credit for it, I could be doing something else right now...etc". So now, when I get an email/inquiry etc..I (a) recognize the physical feeling of anger (b) name it (c) take a deep breath (d) tell my self I cannot change it, it is what it is (e) get to work on it....I am hoping that by doing this I will change my thought process regarding it over time.

What things do you guys do in order to not get angry when you have to deal with things that frustrate you? (Such as traffic jams, line-ups, cleaning, etc?)

Thanks
Misfit