He is insecure and immature and controlling. He wants the relationship on HIS terms. People are what they DO, not what they SAY. Yes, this is unhealthy; pay attention to your instincts.

The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life; I feel it should be required reading for everyone.

Ignoring you is abusive. If you read the book I mentioned your eyes will be opened. Knowledge is power.