Its like the t is the one with borderline. Why are you pussyfooting around her? Are you afraid she is going to get mad, or take something away? I would agree that the relationship has changed, but that is not necessarily a bad thing. We change, we learn, we move forward. Whats the worst that could happen? You ask where shes going, she says shed rather not say. You say sorry, you didnt mean to pry and call her the b-word. NOW youre doing therapy. I walked into my ts office this morning and told him it smelled stuffy and asked him if he was eating salami again. He said how did you know? And thinking about it on the bus home i wished people on pc had this kind of relationship with their ts. Theyre just people. But yeah it took me a loooooong time to get there.