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Originally Posted by hankster
Its like the t is the one with borderline. Why are you pussyfooting around her? Are you afraid she is going to get mad, or take something away? I would agree that the relationship has changed, but that is not necessarily a bad thing. We change, we learn, we move forward. Whats the worst that could happen? You ask where shes going, she says shed rather not say. You say sorry, you didnt mean to pry and call her the b-word. NOW youre doing therapy. I walked into my ts office this morning and told him it smelled stuffy and asked him if he was eating salami again. He said how did you know? And thinking about it on the bus home i wished people on pc had this kind of relationship with their ts. Theyre just people. But yeah it took me a loooooong time to get there.  |
Wow. I guess I didn't think of it that way....that's why outside opinions are so nice. I guess if I asked her where she was going she'd tell me. She always has. But if for some reason she doesn't want to say, then I'd feel rejected. So I'd rather not take that chance that she doesn't want to share. I've no reason to think she wouldn't share...but who knows. I'm not sure what I'm afraid of. Her terminating me when I have been through SO much with her and she knows just about everything....changing things more, which would make me less comfortable. Unfortunately my safety comes in things being familiar....actually, that's probably true for most. Haha...I'd never call my T a *****, but I suppose if I did, that would be therapy, wouldn't it? LOL