I understand the concept of grieving for what you did not have and I think it is good when therapy can assist one with it.

It was not the thing I was talking about. Which is fine - but important to distinguish and it got a bit muddled up when you quoted me and hankster then quoted your response to me - taking it in a completely different direction on a completely different topic. Which is fine - but
I just wanted it made clear that we were not on the same idea.