Skyscrapers long post expressed what I too was thinking. There are people on here who have gone on for years with therapy which was destructive to them. Seeing my ex-T was destructive to me. I carried on for too long with her hoping it would get better, that we could work it out, during that time my motivation for life diminished and I became a person who cried daily. Quitting was hard. My wonderful new T brings out a completely different side in me. She has talked of how therapy can sometimes be a re-enactment. I know my ex-T thought she was helping me and really wanted to help me, I don't know how a T who is as sincere and genuine as she was can get it so wrong.