Musing, have you ever gone back to look at your very first posts? After having just started therapy, you were concerned about others who become attached and dependent on their therapists, and you were determined not to let that happen.

Do you think you were influenced by other people's posts, or were other people's posts cluing you in to a potential problem with this therapist?* Because from what I've seen, your therapist read you from the beginning and encouraged a vulnerability and instability that led right into the very situation you feared. You knew this from pretty much day one. I would say your instincts about what you need are very good.

You went there to work out relationship issues, a void in your marriage, but instead of empowering you, therapy has done the opposite, fed right into that vulnerability and void. That is not the way it's supposed to work.

Because you are so attached, you may not be able to leave until forced (as meow pointed out). If you must stay, is there a way to get back to the reason you entered into therapy? After all, therapy is for working out issues in real life, not creating new ones with a therapist.

If you haven't gone back to read your posts, please consider doing that. One of the other things you said was that your therapist first wanted to set you up with her colleague. Is that where this is headed? If so, please think about seeing someone unrelated to this therapist for an outside opinion.

*I often wonder how much reading about other people's bad experiences here have a corrosive effect on the reader's experience with therapy, or how much we (the reader) key in on elements that strike an underlying and valid fear/concern.