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Originally Posted by hankster
I would ask if you get like this about new love interests? Cuz i think this just shows a person has abandonment issues. The therapist doesnt CAUSE them, the person had them going in. Like going to a medical doctor doesnt cause diabetes or a broken leg. Altho it might cause high blood pressure. But i think thats the exception that proves the rule  |
Actually, I do not. I am in a stable healthy relationship with my wife of ten years(I am also female). I do have abandonment issues but not with her (maybe our first 1-2 years together) but no longer. I also have a lot of friends and it does not happen with them. It happens with 3 women in my life (one is my t) that I have some kind of EXTREME maternal transference with. If I didn't go to therapy it wouldn't happen with her......so I don't mean to talk about myself in this thread but I so relate to the original poster. Why go, if the relationship causes more hurt than what you came in for? I go once a week and my goal is to go to every other by August. We will see if this helps.
Also, I agree with stopdog in that I do believe some therapists cause this (knowingly or unknowingly).