T and I recently discussed this very thing. We were discussing our "relationship" and the different things we have discussed over the years (6). I told her that I felt safe that I could trust her and then said without thinking "well as much as I can trust anybody". I felt bad saying it but then she said that every relationship is a risk and since I have been hurt in most relationships that SHOULD have been safe and trustworthy she would never expect me to ever feel completely secure in any relationship.