I'm with PoppyRoad, "wonderful" is in the eye of the beholder. I know what you mean when you say, "If they feed, support, love, clothe, give warmth & shelter to their child that's not being wonderful, that's being a normal loving parent" but if they do that at considerable cost to themselves, how is that not wonderful? There is nothing normal about good loving, too many do not give or receive it for me to yawn about it and expect it as "normal".