I wish I knew how to advise you. If your therapist had ever admitted fault with the holding you thing I would really encourage you to keep trying. Because I feel overly attached, emotional, feel heartbroken being separated from my T--- and she says this is a normal part of dealing with my fundamental wounds. Part of you DOES become very childlike and dependant. She says it's very very hard and when therapy gets very tough. We focus on teaching my adult mind strategies to deal with the upset child emotional self. We also work in session to reassure that child part of me. It's hard and it hurts. What my T keeps reminding me is it isn't my relationship with HER that is creating the pain, it's how my relationship with her touches those deep unsealed wounds. So at some point therapy, at least for deep seated trauma issues IS really hard and painful.

However I think your therapist just either isn't very good or else has some kind of block where you are involved. Other therapists are out there. The way she handled the touch thing seems so cruel to me.