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Old Jun 20, 2015, 04:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Lauliza View Post
My former marriage counselor took on my H as a client. It's not done very often and is usually advised against while the couples therapy is going on, but after be fact I believe it is a judgment call. I wonder if mit would be hard for you given the transference you have and his style of handeling it. And is it possible you don't need therapy anymore?
Thanks, agreed that it might be difficult to handle. I think I was hoping I could work through it. His style of handling it at first was great--just seems to have shifted a bit now. I'm not totally sure why, though I suspect there could be a bit of paternal countertransference. Or some sort of countertransference. Which could explain why he acts particularly caring and open toward me at times and/or loosens some boundaries--and then is like, uh-oh, better tighten those back up again.

I feel like I still need some sort of therapy, but I also wonder if I need to take a step back from it. Like I want to go for the next few weeks (my T is out of town next week though), see where I am and how I'm feeling, then maybe think about either taking a break from one or both for a bit. Or switching to every other week instead of weekly, something like that. I'm thinking it might be putting me in my own head too much.