Now *i* want to see the guy t just to hear what he has to say about all this. I cant imagine him defending it. Maybe she wants you to see him because she realizes she has backed herself into a corner. She has things she needs to deal with, but they are not your issues to deal with. I would cut my losses and move on. Things are only going to get more intense, and she has already proven herself inadequate. She may have 20 years experience, but not in depth. It takes a bit to shock me ya know!