More and more, and the more therapy I have, I'm believing that I should do what I really, persistently want to on the gut level. I've spent so much of my life going back and forth on something to be sure I was doing "the right thing". And it got me nothing after all. Many marriage counselors do individual therapy and I think it would be great if you proceed to try for what you really want in this therapy situation. As your life gets better and more deeply understood and attended too, you may get so you can genuinely please other people better. But it doesn't come out so well when you deny what you need, to be more acommodating to others . Your own frustrations could have a way of subtle sabotaging to the relationship with the psychologist T and your husband. That's my opinion of it, anyway.