Quote:
Originally Posted by musinglizzy
Yup. You're right about my other posts. Thank you very much for that thought.... that since I don't know why something happened, I don't know how to keep it from happening again. That's exactly it! That's why many have said that it's possible she just got too attached, and when she realized it, she spooked. Either that or she confided in a colleague or something about me, and they told her she was "in too deep." These are the only things I can come up with, and of course, she wouldn't want to admit either of those to me . That would be admitting possible wrong-doing I suppose. But yes, I'm driving myself crazy watching and waiting for the *next* thing to be taken away or changed. Now she didn't offer checking in while she's gone. I wouldn't think anything of it except that she has always made a point to offer before. Ugh. I'm driving myself crazy.
|
I hope you don't mind...I've been talking to my T about your this situation. From what I can tell her...she is saying the same things. Some how your T has found out she introduced touch in the wrong way, became too attached or a colleague has advised her. But if it was a mistake, your T should admit it. We all make mistakes. And it does mess up your trust...wondering what is the next thing she will take away?
Trust is powerful.
I figured out today that I have a big reaction to your situation because-
1) I feared it would happen in my current T relationship. It made me question what we were doing in therapy...what is the process? I was relaxed and trusting, then I became scared. Now we are working to build my trust back...
2) I have experienced this before: The perp psychiatrist- I innocently let him in...cared about him...and I loved the person he let me see.
We became intimate.....then he changed the relationship. I felt hurt and confused.
He took touch and intimacy away...and he would not explain it to me. I asked. He refused to explain it to me.....and he made my confusion my fault!
"You promised me you could handle this!"
Your T needs to discuss this with you as long as you need to. She needs to admit any mistakes. It wasn't your fault- so whose fault must it be?
Im thinking of you.