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Originally Posted by precaryous
I hope you don't mind...I've been talking to my T about your this situation. From what I can tell her...she is saying the same things. Some how your T has found out she introduced touch in the wrong way, became too attached or a colleague has advised her. But if it was a mistake, your T should admit it. We all make mistakes. And it does mess up your trust...wondering what is the next thing she will take away?
Trust is powerful.
I figured out today that I have a big reaction to your situation because-
1) I feared it would happen in my current T relationship. It made me question what we were doing in therapy...what is the process? I was relaxed and trusting, then I became scared. Now we are working to build my trust back...
2) I have experienced this before: The perp psychiatrist- I innocently let him in...cared about him...and I loved the person he let me see.
We became intimate.....then he changed the relationship. I felt hurt and confused.
He took touch and intimacy away...and he would not explain it to me. I asked. He refused to explain it to me.....and he made my confusion my fault!
"You promised me you could handle this!"
Your T needs to discuss this with you as long as you need to. She needs to admit any mistakes. It wasn't your fault- so whose fault must it be?
Im thinking of you.
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I appreciate very much that you would take my story to your T! That really touches my heart, thank you! I don't mind at all, I'm thankful! It's interesting your T also said the same things, either she got too attached or was discussing me with someone, who told her she shouldn't be doing what she was doing.
Honestly, I've read your posts too, for you to trust at all is HUGE...it shows how strong you are if you can open your heart and learn to trust a T after what you've been through. We are all vulnerable in this journey, and Ts should know that more than anything. It sounds like you have a patient, understanding T. So nothing happened, you just kinda had a feeling all of a sudden? I don't recall, but I hope your old T (who did take advantage of you, even if you were a willing participant) is no longer practicing! Thank you so much for the feedback, from you and your T!