I think you are listening, hence this concern of yours. Therapy has set up a situation where you can see how your responses aren't meeting your needs or desires. It's a basic defense to push your therapist away by immediately deciding all suggestions won't work, that you know the answers before the questions are fully asked or the suggestions are tried in this instance. I don't think your T is surprised or offended. I'd pick a suggestion from his next batch and say something like, "maybe I'll give that one a try" and explain why you picked that one and what you expect to find from trying it and what you are afraid or hope you might find instead, etc.