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Old Jun 21, 2015, 07:38 AM
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Originally Posted by jo_thorne View Post
I have a somewhat unusual last name and have dealt a lot with people misspelling and mispronouncing it. I try not to have emotional feelings about it, or I would have a severe complex about it by now. I have watched people take a drivers license or credit card and copy my name off it and write it down wrong. It's like their brain insists that it is another more common name so they can't see what it actually is.

I wanted to suggest the possibility that your therapist may be a very bad speller. Some people just are.

If you feel able, you could ask him to greet you with your full name at the beginning of the session until he learns to say it. You could just say that it makes you feel a little "insecure" (or some other adjective) that he doesn't know how to say your name and ask him to learn to say it.

I am probably coming from the point of view that I have because of so many people misspelling and mispronouncing my name.
Thanks. You know your story reiterates to me how important expectations are. Here I had an expectation before I even knew it, and that's what screwed me! The thing is my last name is 5 letters long and most people can pronounce it or come very close. In your shoes I could see it not bothering me. Maybe I'll bring it up sometime, but I'd never ask him to say it over and over like that. I think it just easily feeds my depressed story line, no one cares about me, better off dead... Here I can say person I spend the most time talking to doesn't even know my name... That has a nice ring to it, my brain just doesn't like to let gems like that go.
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