I've had 7 dates with a guy, and things have been progressing slowly, but I really like him. He has so many qualities that I like and he seems like a great guy. To give you a little background, I'm 23 and he is 24. He has had only one girlfriend (though for several years) and has never actually "dated" before. I've had two boyfriends (though both under a year) and have dated several people.

The first time we kissed, he said he gave our our making out a B because I kissed too "big" and need to appreciate the smaller kisses (I don't use a lot of tongue or anything like that though). Ever since then I've been very self-conscious when kissing him and have tried to mirror his style. The next time I asked him if it was a little better, and he said it wasn't bad, but that I need more training. Personally, I felt it but am afraid that he's not feeling it. He kisses very short-- making out consists of lips together for 3-5 seconds, then pulling away. Then coming back in maybe 10 seconds later. I feel the feelings, but almost get disappointed when he pulls away because I want it to last longer. I also interpret these shorter kisses as him not being very into it, though he says that he thinks they're more intimate. Last night I said I was afraid I wasn't pleasing him and that I feel bad, and that I feel things but hope he does too. He said he does feel it, otherwise he wouldn't have been seeing me for 7 dates. Though he said he thinks we've had a "rough" beginning, but that relationships don't start off perfectly and he still thinks we're working.

I'm starting to wonder whether we just have different kissing styles, and I'm not necessarily a bad kisser. Maybe we both need to modify things a little bit. I really really like him, but I'm concerned he's going to give it up as a lost cause or eventually think we're not compatible. Do you think this is all a bad sign, or do you think it can be fixed?