I don't think I have ever discussed kissing with a guy I was kissing :-) I know it's an individual thing and his not liking how you kiss is wholly about him and not you. I would not do too much trying to mold to his way as that is kind of controlling on his part. You're trying to please him instead of yourself and will probably come to resent it, second guessing yourself all the time?

I'd be a little worried he doesn't want to do "deeper activities" and/or is afraid of your feelings and desires, your sexuality?