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Originally Posted by Perna
I don't think I have ever discussed kissing with a guy I was kissing :-) I know it's an individual thing and his not liking how you kiss is wholly about him and not you. I would not do too much trying to mold to his way as that is kind of controlling on his part. You're trying to please him instead of yourself and will probably come to resent it, second guessing yourself all the time?
I'd be a little worried he doesn't want to do "deeper activities" and/or is afraid of your feelings and desires, your sexuality?
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I feel a little weird about discussing it too, and a little worried it will just make us both self-conscious and kill the romance, but he is encouraging me being open about it/talking about it. Yeah, maybe I shouldn't let my desires fade to the background, though I'll take his into account too.
It isn't that he doesn't want to do deeper activities-- we just haven't gotten there yet and haven't had the opportunity (since we both still live with parents and haven't gone over each other's houses yet). As to whether he is afraid of my feelings, desires, or sexuality... I'm not sure. I don't know if afraid is the right word, but my way of kissing I guess feels unnatural/different to him from what he's used to. To me it feels like his kissing is hesitant and surface-level instead of deeper, but apparently he finds those kisses more intimate. I think we're just interpreting it all differently.