I don't know much about the mental illness part of ssdi but YES, you have to see the doctor they are sending you to or they will cut off your benefits. Also, you need to see your regular doctor at least every 6 months in order to keep your benefits. Perhaps telephone appts might be ok if your doctor is willing to state that. I would call her. but if you are claiming to be disabled by depression I would expect they think you should be seeing the therapist on an ongoing basis so you can 'get well'. Depression is not usually a life time disability. They expect you to get help, therapy and drugs that will make it so you can work. Also, if you can work in that other country, why can't you work in this country?